Cancer Came Knocking

It’s a little funny because when I first began this blog, so many years ago, I wrote in my About Me section that you could expect a lot of content. I mean, I write pretty much every day. The first few months seemed to hold true to that with daily, if not multiple-a-day, posts for some time. Then, we moved back to the U.S. and my pen hit the paper and I finished my first book; blog took a backseat.

When I finished my book, I logged back in here and began posting again. I was just getting back to logging in to write on this blog when cancer came knocking. No, it wasn’t my personal door, but my husband’s. It was a Tuesday night in October, the pain he had been having for a little over a month, didn’t let him sleep anymore (and ignore it as he had been), so we headed to the emergency room. We didn’t leave until 6 the next morning and by that time, the “C” word had already been said “but, we will see what the tests say.”

My husband and I slept most of Wednesday and returned to work Thursday morning. Thursday night we were both sitting on the couch when he received a phone call from the urologist at our military base. Cancer. Surgery was in the morning. (Yes, it happened that fast!)

The following weeks were full of doctor visits, labs, tests, and informational meetings. He would ultimately go through 4 rounds of chemotherapy, lose all of his hair, battle through the side effects of the chemo, and lose a lot of strength and time. (He slept a LOT!) But here we are – Chemo is done and tomorrow we return to the doctor for results from his last PET Scan (basically they inject radioactive material inside the body to light it up and look for cancer’s “glow”… or no glow.)

He has now had 3 PET Scans since that long night in October. The last one, after his second round of chemo, showed remarkable improvement and his “glow” numbers dropped from 10.3 to 3.6. We are hoping for it to be less than 1 tomorrow.

It has been a long journey and this blog has been lower on the priority list. I hope you’ll keep reading, though.



‘Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me.’


Pastors Bill and Brent Purvis said the way to have your best year is found in the 3R Method: Resolution, Reason, and Routine

My Scripture text above from Psalm 51:10 talks about God renewing a steadfast spirit with us. That simply means, help me be faithful or committed. It means having resolutions.

Steadfast – resolutely or dutifully firm and unwavering | synonyms: loyal, faithful, committed, devoted, dedicated

Here are the 6 areas we should resolve to be committed to growth in this year:

Spiritually – 2 Timothy 4:13 says, “When you come, bring the cloak that I left with Carpus at Troas, and my scrolls, especially the parchments.” Paul has been imprisoned and is saying, please bring me these things that are important to me – the cloak, or something to keep my body warm in this jail cell; my scrolls, the writings that kept him mentally sharp; but especially the parchments, which were the Scriptures.

You need to be most committed to growing spiritually this year.

I have always been a big advocate for taking one Scripture or passage and meditating on it all day. When you get up in the morning, read your Word, spend time in prayer, and ask God to show you what you need to meditate on. Sometimes you will meditate on the same Word for days. Others, you’ll meditate on a Scripture for one day and another the next. Don’t be tied to a ‘system’, but be consistent with with Spirit. He will lead you. You’ll know when you’re reading that you’ve found the verse or passage you need to ‘chew on’ for the day.

I recommend keeping note cards by your prayer place (wherever you meet with the Lord) and jot down the Scripture or passage you will meditate on. Then, throughout the day, take out the card and reread it to make sure you’re putting the whole word in your spirit. Remember, James 1:5 says, “If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without find fault, and it will be given to you.” Ask God what Scripture you should meditate on and He will show you.

You won’t have much of a relationship with God without daily communication with Him.

Physical – Proverbs 31:17 says, “She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks.” 1 Timothy 4:8 says, “For physical training is of some value, but godliness has value for all things, holding promise for both the present life and the life to come.” We put the spiritual first, but notice this Scripture doesn’t cancel out the need for exercise; it just says it’s not the most important.

1 Corinthians 6:19-20 “Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies.”

Have balance, but make sure you invest in taking care of your body. Eat better; exercise every day; don’t do anything that harms your body; get plenty of rest (but don’t rest all day); and fuel your body for the work the Lord has for you – or you won’t complete the rest He set before you! (2 Timothy 4:7)

Mental – No matter when you completed school, you should never stop learning. Pastor Teresa Price says, “If something is not growing, it’s dying.” Don’t let your brain lie dormant because you achieved your education goal and have mastered a job. Apply your mind to learn something new all the days of your life.

Jim Rohn famously said that we are the average of the five people we spend the most time with and I’ve heard that another great influence in our lives are the 5 books we are currently reading. Keep reading, just make sure what you’re reading betters your life. I’m not talking about romance novels or sci-fi thrillers. Invest in your mind and read biographies of people who have done what you’re trying to do in life. Read stories that inspire you in your field or an area of interest.

When I began running, I read books that talked about training plans, how to eat, and marathon mishaps. If you’re not investing in your mind, you will find this world becomes unfamiliar quickly as it continues to move forward, and you begin to shrink back.

‘Success leaves footprints’ – Bill Purvis

Emotional – How you feel emotionally is how you experience life daily.

“So I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh. For the desires of the flesh are against the Spirit, and the desires of the Spirit are against the flesh, for these are opposed to each other, to keep you from doing the things you want to do.” Galatians 5:16-17

There is a never-ending battle between our spirit and our flesh and we must choose daily, hourly, and sometimes by the minute, who wins that battle. We can have the best intentions and still sin because our flesh wants something entirely different from the spirit within us. You know who is winning the war by the fruit you see.

Verses 22 and 23 continue, “But the fruit of the spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.”

If you’re not experience those things in your life, your emotional health is probably a wreck.

Emotional intelligence is a term that has been around for a little over fifty years, but only gained popularity in the last twenty. It basically means someone’s ability to control their emotions and adapt to outside influences appropriately to achieve their goals.  Regardless of man’s awareness of this type of intelligence, the battle between spirit and soul has been with us from the first day we drew a breath. And the more we build up our spirit, the more stable – peaceful, gentle, good, etc. – our lives will become.

Relational – 1 Corinthians 15:33 says, “Do not be deceived: ‘Bad company ruins good morals.”

The first thing you need to aright in the realm of your relationships is cutting off the dead weight. If someone is not enhancing your life, or you theirs, chances are they are dead weight using up the water and nutrients in your tree that you need to give to someone else.

Don’t ever fear breaking off poor relationships in your life. The faster you do, the more your other relationships will benefit.

The Bible has a lot to say about our relationship to other people:

1 Peter 4:9          “Show hospitality to one another without grumbling.”

Romans 12:10    “Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor.”

Ephesians 4:32   “Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another as God in Christ forgave you.”

1 Thessalonians 5:11       “Therefore, encourage one another and build one another up…”

Ephesians 5:21   “submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ.”

John 13:34           “A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another: just as I have loved you, you also are to love another.”

2 Corinthians 13:11          “Finally, brothers, rejoice. Aim for restoration, comfort one another, agree with one another, live in peace; and the God of love and peace will be with you.”

There are many more of these reciprocal commands and I challenge you to not only find them, but ask God to help you with one each week this year.

We were created for connection.

Financially – Ensure God is your authority on money.

1 Timothy 6:10 “For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evils.”

First know that money is not evil, but the love of it is. So, make sure you rule your money so money doesn’t rule you.

Next, learn and operate in the spiritual laws of finance. Tithing is not a suggestion and offerings are not so the church can pay its bills. Malachi 3:10-11 says, “Bring the full tithe (one-tenth, literal meaning; so 5% won’t do!) into the storehouse, that there may be food in my house. And thereby put me to the test, says the Lord of hosts, if I will not open the windows of heaven for you and pour down for you a blessing until there is no more need. I will rebuke the devourer for you, so that it will not destroy the fruits of your soil, and your vine in the field shall not fail to bear, says the Lord of hosts.”

Did you catch the command? It doesn’t say, when your budget can handle it, tithe; it says to tithe. All other spiritual laws that deal with finances are moot if you don’t first tithe because that is what removes the curse on your earthly possessions – money, fruit of your labor, etcetera.

Kevin O’Leary, known from Shark Tank, has said, “The key to having money is to have a plan for it.”

Habakkuk 2:2, “And the Lord answered me: “Write the vision; make it plain on tablets, so he may run who reads it.”

Proverbs 27:23-24 says, “Know well the condition of your flocks, and give attention to your herds, for riches do not last forever; and does a crown endure to all generations?”

Manage these 6 areas if your life this year and you will have the best year of your life.

Thank you!

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Blessings & Shalom,


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Resurrecting the Wrong Life


Well, it is here – my book is available for purchase and I feel like I just gave birth! This has been almost 18 years in the making and I give God all the glory for the journey.

You can get a copy HERE and thank you in advance to those who will read, review, and share this book. It has been  quite the journey and I know God has more to come.


Blessings and shalom,


Getting Through Deployments

Month one- get something done

     Whatever is on your to-do list that you have been putting off, get it done. = great distraction
Month two- something for you
     Do something special for your deployed spouse. A special care package, a photo session and send a framed photo, etcetera. 
Month three- something for me
     You deserve it, go pamper yourself or buy something you want. Reward yourself for getting this far. 
Month four- get out the door
     Plan a trip- it doesn’t have to be far away or expensive, but plan an outing to do this month or when your spouse returns 
Month five- come alive
     Do something that makes you come alive. What is your passion? Dancing, painting, hiking, karaoke, etc. Plan and do something that excites you!
Month six- weekly mix
     Every week of this month, pick one thing to do from below:
          A) Make a playlist of music that represents your relationship
          B) Bake something and take it to another spouse of a deployed Soldier
          C) volunteer- give of your time and talents somewhere in your community (or your FRG!)
          D) get organized- go through your closets, cabinets, desks, and nooks and crannies and clean out the old (don’t be a hoarder- get rid if anything you haven’t used in a year or documents over 7 years old)
Month seven – just like heaven
     Make a list of all the things you miss about your spouse that makes your marriage heaven. One another piece of paper, write down anything that you don’t miss that YOU do when they are home. Now, take the two lists and make a goal to do more of list one and less of list two upon their return. (Each deployment / separation is an opportunity to see the good and the bad we are cultivating in our marriage. Take the time to take stock in what you have and where YOU can change *this is not about changing THEM)
Month eight- can’t wait
     Make a list of all of the things you can’t wait to do with your spouse. This can be a running list that you add to everyday. Keep a copy for yourself and send them one so you both can anticipate the reunion. 
Month nine- it is time. 
     This will be the longest month and the shortest. So much to do. Get involved with the FRG, if you haven’t already, and plan the reunion. Volunteer to help with the single Soldiers’ barracks, the welcome home decorating, and the reunion events. The more involved you are the faster this month will go!

I Want to Love

I listened to your unfeigned voice,
the emotion in your falsetto;
I watched your face illuminate
as you sang about your love;
Hearing the words you chose,
such sweet poetry of the heart.
I want to love this one you know.

Put the needle of hope in my arm.
Place the tape of optimism
to secure it there.
As I count back from 5
Let me fall
Into love like this
As I count back from 4
Let me live.

You create a brand new zeitgeist,
the candor in your song.
The evident way you love them
paints an enviable bliss.
Your convincing melody is
an anesthetic to my pessimism.
I want to love this one you know.

Put the needle of hope in my arm.
Place the tape of optimism
to secure it there.
As I count back from 3
Let me fall
Into love like this
As I count back from 2
Let me live.

You articulate my dreams well;
the ones that carry me to heaven.
You cauterize this hemorrhaging heart
stabbed by a cruelty of selfishness.
Your ability, willingness, to open up
to want for beyond yourself.
I want to love this one you know.

Put the needle of hope in my arm.
Place the tape of optimism
to secure it there.
As I count back from 1
Let me fall
Into love like this
Into love like this

Golgotha beats a Full house

Place the hot coals on my lips
As I deny such a disquieting vice
Rip off the fingers that reach
For the pistol prepared for roulette
Sear my eyes closed while I walk
Down aisles offering to satiate
Shove a stick or two and beat my drums
So I no longer hear these demons hum
A ransom has been offered
For the child to come back to Sheol
Back where she can play and laugh
Laugh at
Place the paper on these trembling legs
As I try to pen some of these feelings out
Rid myself of haunting words
For a chance to rest tonight
Sear the portal existing
Down in the nadir of despair
Shove back the devils that tempt
So tonight I do not succumb
A ransom was offered
For this child to overcome
Back on a cross at Golgotha